Jan 29 2009
When or How?
I know we don’t like to think of these things but death is inevitable for all of us. I was discussing the issue with a friend the other day and interesting issues arose from this discussion. I’m the type of person who does not like surprises so I would want to know when I was going to leave this earth rather than how I would leave. It would be nice to know so I could prepare, say bye to my loved ones and spend all my money traveling and not caring about bills or anything else. However my friend made a very good point. Would it not be better to know how so that you can prevent it from happening as long as you can? In other words, if you knew you were going to die in a car accident for example, then you could just make sure never to ride in a car.
I know this is far fetched but I am curious by nature and just wonder would you rather know when or how?
When death has to happen, there’s no way you can escape it. So, if it’s a car accident destined for you, and you decide not to travel in a car any more, some other tragedy might occur!
So, I would go with “when” rather than ‘how’.
if it would be possible, then yes, i would want to know when and how, maybe not so much to avoid it, but to prepare for it, like what you said.
dratiffarid - it is destiny so you make a good point. Thanks.
betchai - yes preparing would be important for me. Thanks for stopping by.
When, so I could have at least some choice in how. Means I could take a shot at doing something that otherwise would be too stupid even to contemplate–and so I could try other things that might a little more risky than I’d do otherwise because I’d know it isn’t my time yet!
Maybe the when but definitely not how. I don’t want to be scared of doing and trying things for fear that it might be the death of me!
For us Muslims, we believe that our time and way of death is already written and try as we may, we cannot escape or change it.
But about 7 years ago, I got a jolt to remind me of my mortality and somewhat change my view of life. I’m much more mellow because of that.
Yes, I would definitely want to know in advance if possible. I’d have sooo much to do to prepare. But, then again what if I became angry and depressed??? Maybe we should just live every day like it is our last and tell everyone close to us how much we love them…
I prefer not to know, and accept whatever comes my way! If I know, I would probably worry too much to the point of even die faster…
ravyn - I like your way of thinking. Taking risks would be one thing I would try as well.
lina - Yes, we catholics as well believe that it is destiny although even though I was raised Catholic I neither believe or practice it. Thanks for stopping by.
caregivingdaughter - perfect answer. Living in the moment is the way to go and letting our loved ones know how much they mean to us. You’ve got the right idea.
icybc - lol, good point. Thanks to all for reading and commenting.